Conquering Negativity

I want to start this post off by saying how grateful I am for you.

I am grateful every single day that so many wonderful people take their valuable time to read what I write. I am grateful every single day that people try my recipes. I am grateful every single day that people leave me honest and often mind-blowingly kind comments. I am so grateful for you each and every one of you.

I am happy I get comments at all, but I have to say that I don’t really appreciate the negative ones. I know how fortunate I am to only get minimal comments that are negative in nature, but when they do find their way into my inbox, I’d be lying if I said they didn’t hurt. They do.

I have been getting such wonderful feedback on my single serving peanut butter cake, so when I saw yet another person had left a comment, I opened up the email like the excited little girl I am (as I always do with comments because I love them so much!). Unfortunately, this particular comment admonished me for typos I had allegedly made, and told me my writing was not very good.

I know I’m probably overreacting. I re-read the post over and did catch two errors, but having typos is a very easy problem to fix. It is quite possible the person did not mean it in a harshly critical way, but honestly, I was still offended.

So I’ve been thinking it over, and I do want to apologize to all of you for any typos I’ve made. I’m sorry. I know I shouldn’t be making excuses, but I am only fourteen and I’m writing off of an eighth grade education. Plus, I was up past eleven o’clock working on that post, so I was half asleep when it was published and I was probably not super receptive to spelling mistakes.

The person pointed how it would problematic if I ever made a mistake in one of my recipes, but I really am very careful about those. I am so thankful you would take your time, effort, and money to make one of my recipes, and I would never ever want you to waste any of those things.

But I don’t want it to be assumed that this kind of negative reaction is the norm. It’s not. In fact, you people are so wonderful (what else is new?) that these sorts of things rarely happen, while amazingly thoughtful things happen all the time.

For example, I recently updated the family page to include the new members (welcome, relatives!), and I got this trackback from a fabulous girl named Bek from Crave whom I just added to the family.  In her post, she talked about how being officially added was a highlight of her day, and she also mentioned some incredibly kind and thoughtful things about me. Talk about a highlight of my day!

On the first acting audition I had ever been one, Ellen of Scrumptious Gruel was extremely supportive and gave me some of the best advice I’ve ever had.

A few days ago, some very sweet person I hadn’t ever talked to before linked to me on the Athletarian’s comment section. I so was flattered that someone recommended me, unsolicited.

I met the fabulous Ellie of Fit for the Soul at Foodbuzz last year, and after not talking to her for a bit, it was so nice to re-connect with her recently. She is such a sweetheart, and just an amazing person overall.

And not to mention all of you. I would name each and every one of you if I could, because you make me smile with your beautiful acts of kindness, be they in the form a comment, email, link, positive energy (I can feel it!), or you just reading. I am so thankful for you, and I love you very much.

So if the person who left that comment is reading this, I am sorry my typos bothered you. I promise I’ll try to do better.

Okay, so thank you very much again for putting up with my ramblings and me, and I do love you all. You rock, and you make me smile all the time.

Enjoy!

-Kelly M.

How do you handle negativity? If you are a blogger, do you delete negative comments?

 

 

Comments

  1. says

    Don’t sweat that stuff, girl! Honestly, you have a rockin’ blog and some pretty rockin’ recipes too. :) Typos happen all. the. time. Heck, even published authors need people to read their stuff over many times before publishing. I’ll tell you something, typos are no biggie. It happens. You are still a GREAT writer. Don’t let it get to you <3

  2. says

    Oh my golly gosh, I am so glad the advice I gave you worked!
    As for negativity, there is a boatload of it in Hollywood-though sometimes, for instance in acting and dance class, I WANT criticism because life is about evolution and sometimes I can be very blind to things I am not doing so well. That being said, a lot I criticism can be brushed off as the other person’s insecurity…

    • says

      Hi Ellen! sometimes we DO need criticism…but constructive ones that is! :D I always welcome it as long as I do my best to handle it in a mature loving manner.

      And Kelly! are you kidding me? I’m not just saying that for a young gal you’re a good writer! but in some ways you’re actually really gifted in writing, period. I think whoever might comment on such things just means that it’s not their style because you do have your own style, and perhaps that’s what they didn’t like. We all have our styles and some of us develop it faster than others. For me, I def. think I have a loooong way to go. And I’m very thankful I met you too! You know that I truly care about you even if we only spent 3 days together~

      • says

        So well put, Ellie. And I really and truly care about you, despite our short three days together in person! Are you going to the Foodbuzz convention this year, too? (She said hopefully)

    • says

      Ellen!! I wanted to tell you that I just a dancer in some roject for public schools. Thank you so much for your support and general amazingness! ;)

  3. says

    Kelly,
    Everyone makes typos; it’s nothing to worry about. (Just triple-check your recipe measurements before posting to be safe.) I didn’t see the negative comment you’re talking about on the page, but I will say that anyone criticizing your writing is just being silly. You write extremely well, especially for an eighth-grader. Your grammar and sentence structure is nearly impeccable and your style is conversational, fluid, and funny at times! Anyway, most negative comments that are unjustified (if the person wanted to make a useful negative comment, he/she would provide clear reasoning for his/her claim, and then the negative comment would be constructive criticism) come from people who are bored out of their minds and want to say random un-nice things. Just ignore them. You’re doing great, so keep going as you are! :)

    • says

      You, my friend, are amazing. Thank you so much for this wonderful and beyond comment! I appreciate your kind words and reassurance more than you know, and I just wanted to let you know I am extremely grateful. Thank you. ;)

  4. says

    Don’t let this little thing get to you – you are waaaaay too good for stuff like that. I read this post, and I really wanted to punch whoever said that to you (ok, not literally, but you know what I mean). Never take this to heart. I will be honest: I have noticed typos in several posts. I DON’T CARE. It adds character, makes me smile (because, really, they are entertaining sometimes). We love you, and love your recipes. I eagerly await your next posts – typos or not, they are always among the best blogging material out there, and that is saying something! You’ve got personality, girl, don’t let it go to waste.

  5. Juli says

    You know what? I don’t visit your website because you are grammatically correct! If someone has nothing better to do than check your posts for typos than hey have way too much time on their hands. If it is really such a huge issue for them they can stop visiting your site or offer their editing services free of charge! Keep doing what you do and we will keep reading.

  6. says

    Oh my gosh, I keep forgetting you are only 14! You are so amazing, seriously, when I have a daughter one day (if I do) and she turns out like you have I swear I will feel like I have won a lottery. Or better. Yeah, actually, much better. You are amazing and don’t let stupid negative comments bring you down. Some people are just negative and no matter what you do, they will come with negativity and find something to bring you down simply because they are jealous of your success and your kind nature. I’ve met numerous people like that over the years. You will come across those people on blogs, and in real life. Just dismiss it. Sure, take it as constructive criticism if it looks like it could be beneficial but don’t stress about it if it is blatantly rude. It’s envy. Most of the time. Trust me. Keep your head up :) They aren’t worth you getting upset over, they don’t matter. Smile! <3 xo

  7. says

    Don’t let the negativity get you down! I love your blog and I think your recipes are fabulous. Plus, who doesn’t make a typo now and then. We are human after all! Thanks for all of your hard work and I love your site!

  8. says

    Hey, I wanna be part of the fam’….

    Anyway, I have yet to get a truly offensive comment, but this isn’t something we should be worrying about. The “good” far outweighs the “bad” in this case, and there will always be a few negative people who give some annoying but typical variety in life… In general, people like your blog, and that’s worth smiling about.

  9. says

    Kelly, you are such a strong, inspirational girl. I had no idea you were only 14–your blog is very professional and has better content than many health food/healthy living blogs. You will go so far in life, and you will be given so many opportunities because you are full of integrity. So many people support and love you! I was given the Sunshine Award to pass on to ten bloggers, and I want to pass it on to you! There is no pressure to tag more bloggers, it is just a fun way to connect with other bloggers. Read more about the Sunshine Award here: http://empoweredsustenance.blogspot.com/2012/07/sunshine-award.html#more

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